A few days ago I watched a video from Bunny all about 5 things she had learnt during 2017. I felt very inspired watching her video and it got me thinking about some of the big things I’ve learnt this year. So, I’ve decided to put this post together and share how my life has changed through some of the life lessons I’ve been dealt with.
#1. You don’t have to lose weight to be happy.
This is arguably the biggest thing I’ve learnt this year and I’m slightly annoyed at myself for not learning it sooner. I went in a weight loss journey last year with Slimming World and I lost a stone after trying to lose the weight I had put on since leaving university. However, I’m now (arguably to some) back in square one, but I have a different outlook in my head. I’ve discovered the world of body positivity and realising how incredibly toxic diet culture is. People like Bodyposipanda and Grace Victory are teaching me to embrace my body, rolls and all. Although I’ve got a long way to go before I can become a body positive bean, I’m getting there and I’m proud of myself.
#2. Toxic people will never change.
At the beginning of this year, I cut ties with someone I was very close to because they were viciously toxic towards me and many of my mutual friends. It was a difficult thing to do, but I’m so glad that I took that step and find myself feeling so much more free without them breathing down my neck. Looking back, I realised that I justified their behaviour to myself by saying that they’d change when this thing happened, or this thing happened, but they never did. Infact, their behaviour got worse and worse. I’ve come to realise that toxic people are never going to change their ways and that steering clear of them is a necessary change I had to make.
#3. You have the drive to achieve your dreams.
2018 is going to be an amazing year, as it will see me release my debut novel The Ascension of Melanie Winters. It was something that I dedicated a lot of time to this year and I shocked myself at the speed I worked at on it. The story came from an idea I’ve had for years (as most of my story ideas do, let’s be honest here) and I did try to write it for NaNoWriMo three years ago. It was only this year that I took the idea and decided that the story wouldn’t write and get published by itself. I am so so proud of the work I’ve put into the book and it makes me incredibly excited to share the story with you next year. If you want to keep up to date on my writing, make sure you check out my writing website.
#4. Making a house your own takes a lot of time and patience.
In January this year, I moved into my first house with Morgan, Patch and Bonnie. It’s been one of the most amazing journeys we’ve been on and I couldn’t be happier that we have our own space together. Despite this, our house needs to have quite a fair bit of work on it which is taking more time than expected. We’ve already had our bathroom done which we adore but there are lots of other things we want to do to the house that we need to make time for. It has frustrated me quite a bit living in a house that still looks incredibly dated save for one room, but given how long it took for us to get our bathroom done I understand that we need to be patient.
#5. Having a schedule is so important.
As of writing this blog post, here is the list of things I have/currently work on when I’m on the internet…
That is four massive aspects of the internet that I undertake and having a schedule is absolutely necessary for me to dedicate enough time to them all. Because of health issues I’ve been dealing with recently and not really knowing what direction I want to go in, there have been certain things I’ve worked on more than others. I know that if I write myself a schedule every week and I stick to it as best as possible, then I don’t have to feel like I’m neglecting any of them. It’s quite a lot for me to do but I love and enjoy it; having these outlets (especially my writing website) are incredibly rewarding for me.